来了这里 我们的教授让我们做了一个全面的自我评估
我觉得评估出来的东西都很标准
我是个很schedule, indirect 和 expressive
schedule 的反义词是 flow
indirect 是 direct
expressive 是 neutral
我觉得写英文比较容易叙述所以我就写英文啦
Okay so the story goes like this:
There is this one guy in my team, who is a really flow person.
SO, he was late for our meeting for almost an hour.
and when he came in, he was like "Oh sorry guys, I'm late, what yall have been doing?”
and he acted as if nothing happened.
Okay I was mad at him, partly because he is a Singaporean and I have high expectation of him,
and partly because he didn't even care to explain what was he doing in that hour.
And I did try my best to pretend everything was going alright in the meeting yesterday.
But I just couldn't, and seriously, I don't know why am I taking this so seriously.
Okay. SO, we have another meeting yesterday night. And he was late for another 15 minutes.
AS USUAL he acted as if nothing happened and pulled in a chair and joined our discussion.
And he wanted to go to the gym. And he rushed the meeting. And I was annoyed.
So I didn't managed to hide my expression well, and one of my group mates approached me and asked me if I was mad.
Initially I said "Yeah sure, I'm good.", and I figured she can read my expression and insisted on knowing how I feel, so I told her that I was a little bit mad at the guy, and that I will try talking to him.
So today morning, we have another meeting, and he was late AGAIN!
I was really mad, and asked: "Shall we have some kind of penalties for the late comers?"
His reply was: "Why? why should we have penalties? I thought our goal is to have fun and learn things. This is not a school and we are not kids and you're not principal."
I kept my mouth shut and fake a smile.
I was upset. And almost cried on the way back to my room.
During lunch, I talked to Shuang Shuang, my Malaysian best friend here and we both come from NUS.
I confided everything to her, and we both agree that I have to talk to him.
And I did, I went to his room after the interview session finished and we talked.
He is SO DAMN direct, and I was amazed by his directness.
So we did talk. And I thought we are okay after that.
He whatsapp-ed me something afterwards, and told me that if I have stuff to say to people then it's better to tell them myself. Its not nice to tell people who then continue to tell other people until the person I want to speak to hears it from someone else.
AGAIN I WAS AMAZED BY HIS DIRECTNESS.
I wondered who told him that but I figured it may be Shuang Shuang.
Because I know she doesn't know what can be said to others and what cannot.
And she likes to tell others what she's heard.
And I seriously 给她炸到..
我不想judge她 但是就酱咯..
又上了一堂课
今天的心情真的是云霄飞车..
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